It Will Set You Free!

The other day I was having a very raw and honest conversation with one of my sisters. I was telling her how I have come to realize that I hold a very high expectation of people in my life, almost as though people 'owe' me. I imagine that since I have been there for them, then they should be there for me. Or since I have invested in a friendship, then it ought to last for ever. But the harsh reality that has finally dawned on me is that I am entitled to nothing.

If you're anything like me then you have found yourself one too many times struggling to hold onto friendships that have run their course, and all that's left is a lot of awkward moments and scanty conversations. And the more you try to make the relationship work, the more vulnerable you become...the more hurt you get. It is very taxing to be at a place that you do not belong.

Some of you reading this are in relationships that you well know are not right for you. Holding onto a man or woman who does not see your value, and in order to validate your self worth, you sell yourself short by pleading and begging them to stay with you, while make all sorts of excuses as to why you’re still holding on...

But this is not just about relationships you see, it could be a job that you're struggling to maintain knowing that your time to move is long overdue. The signs are written on the wall, clear for all to see- so what are you afraid of?

Do you remember the story of Naomi and Ruth? Do you also remember the third woman we do not talk too much about? Orpah? She was Naomi's daughter-in-love, (just like Ruth was). She loved and served Naomi faithfully (just like Ruth did). But when time came for Naomi to go back to Bethlehem from Moab, things changed. Orpah chose to stay behind in Moab while Ruth decided to go wherever Naomi would go. I believe that Orpah was a good woman, and her intentions were good, but she did not have the heart, the courage, nor the love to follow Naomi into the 'unknown'. Her season in Naomi's life was over.

Photography by Mwaniki Will

How many of us recognize when a season is over and yet want to extend it because we are in denial? Beloved, can't you see? Your destiny often requires a working and reworking that will more often than not be uncomfortable and far from easy. But painful as it may be, you must accept the gift of goodbye. And when all is said and done you will find yourself lighter, happier, and free, almost like a load has been taken off of you.

As we walk into a new month, find the courage to walk away from things that have run their course in your life. Scary as it may be, it will be well worth your while. I can promise you that.  Say goodbye to the seasons that have ended and a big hello to new friendships, a new career, new and endless possibilities. There is a blessing in your goodbye!

From my heart to yours,

Kambua M.